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Happy 3rd Birthday Monkey. We miss you more than words can say. We'll be laying low today, but celebrating in our own little way. It's hard to believe just three years ago you entered this world. It seems like a whole lifetime ago. You made us parents and changed us forever, in which we'll be forever grateful. I so desperately wish we had been preparing for a big Birthday party at our house tonight, but instead, your little brother and I went and decorated your headstone yesterday. Your dad and I will be thinking of you, and hoping you've never been happier.
Joseph Smith rightly taught:
"The mother who laid down her little child, being deprived of the privilege, the joy, and the satisfaction of bringing it up to manhood or womanhood in this world, would, after the resurrection, have all the joy, satisfaction, and pleasure, and even more than it would have been possible to have had in mortality, in seeing her child grow to the full measure of stature of it's spirit...When she does it there, it will be with the certain knowledge that the results will be without failure; whereas here, the results are unknown until after we have passed the test."
That's what I'm leaning on today.
Love you,
Mom and Dad
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  1. TiffanyDecember 17, 2011 at 8:05 AM

    Love you Ashley! Happy birthday sweet Preslee!

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  2. JonesDecember 17, 2011 at 8:24 AM

    Happy Birthday Preslee. My thoughts are always with you Ashley. Thinking of you guys always.
    Love, Jenni-Ohio

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  3. RosalieDecember 17, 2011 at 8:26 AM

    What a BEAUTIFUL quote!! LOVE it! Happy Birthday Preslee!

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  4. ChantelDecember 17, 2011 at 8:27 AM

    Happy Bday, sweet girl. Will be thinking of your family today.

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  5. SharonDecember 17, 2011 at 9:00 AM

    Praying for you today.

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  6. KelliDecember 17, 2011 at 9:01 AM

    Happy Birthday sweet Preslee! It's a special day for me to its my dad's birthday. I feel like its an extra special day since you two share the same bday. :)

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  7. Our FamilyDecember 17, 2011 at 9:13 AM

    thinking of you today...love you! the sommer clan

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  8. Our FamilyDecember 17, 2011 at 9:14 AM

    happy birthday sweet preslee!

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  9. ElizaDecember 17, 2011 at 9:42 AM

    I hope the happiest of memories of your darling girl can fill your heart today especially. Though you do not know me I have been praying for you all week. Happy birthday sweet Preslee!

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  10. lindseyDecember 17, 2011 at 10:05 AM

    happy birthday pres! loved the quote at the end! Love that Ledger was just a cheesin in the pic! love yall!

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  11. UnknownDecember 17, 2011 at 10:11 AM

    happy birthday beautiful girl...
    thinking of you and your family today.

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  12. Kip & MelissaDecember 17, 2011 at 10:12 AM

    Happy birthday to preslee! I love your tradition to see the lights at the temple. Love you guys

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  13. Powell's PlaceDecember 17, 2011 at 10:47 AM

    I know today has to be tough for you guys. Hang in there. So cute that Ledger is smiling so cute in the picture.

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  14. NatalieDecember 17, 2011 at 10:47 AM

    Happy Birthday Preslee! Beautiful words today!

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  15. The Mueller Family5December 17, 2011 at 10:49 AM

    Happy Birthday to your precious Preslee!

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  16. UnknownDecember 17, 2011 at 10:50 AM

    Happy Birthday little Pres! That is the sweetest picture of Ledger next to her grave. Especially that he is smiling!

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  17. HeidiDecember 17, 2011 at 10:52 AM

    Happy Birthday Preslee. What a BEAUTIFUl post and BEAUTIFUL picture! Thinking of you and your family today!

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  18. TonyaDecember 17, 2011 at 10:59 AM

    You are great with words Ashley! Thanks for sharing. Happy Birthday to your sweet baby girl!:)

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  19. Kurt and MichelleDecember 17, 2011 at 11:03 AM

    Happy Birthday sweet Preslee, I think I will always remember her birthday has it is exactly 20 days after our daughters. We are always praying for you!

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  20. Kimba December 17, 2011 at 11:16 AM

    Happy Birthday sweet Preslee! I don't know why but I just felt I should share this song with you:

    http://upliftyourselfs.blogspot.com/2011/12/there-is-still-my-joy.html

    You continue to be in my prayers and thoughts.

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  21. AmishkaDecember 17, 2011 at 11:31 AM

    All my thoughts and prayers are with you and I've been thinking of you all week long, knowing this day was coming. I wanted to do something special for your family but had a hard time knowing what to do. I settled on a simple card and a little gift for Ledger. It should arrive on Monday. I hope you have a good family day and can cherish all your beautiful memories of you sweet Preslee.
    Love Amy, David & Family.

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  22. GwenDecember 17, 2011 at 12:28 PM

    I have been leaning on that quote for 33 years now. The anniversary of our babies passing is coming up on the 30th of this month. We WILL have our day.....hang in there Ashley

    Love
    Gwen

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  23. Sarah GarnerDecember 17, 2011 at 1:13 PM

    Happy birthday sweet Preslee!

    We're thinking of your family today!

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  24. CarolynDecember 17, 2011 at 1:41 PM

    Happy Birthday Beautiful!! We miss you!

    Thinking of your and your family today! Hugs!

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  25. My 4 GoochesDecember 17, 2011 at 2:24 PM

    Breaks my heart. It's crazy how a small child I've never met can be on my mind so much. Happy Birthday Preslee!

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  26. JeNnADecember 17, 2011 at 2:32 PM

    What Joseph Smith taught.... What a comfort! Thinking of you always!

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  27. LinsyDecember 17, 2011 at 4:40 PM

    Thinking of you guys and wishing Little Miss Pres a happy birthday today. We love you sweetheart. From you Aunt and Uncle, Jamie and Linsy.

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  28. AnonymousDecember 17, 2011 at 5:08 PM

    Happy Birthday Sweet Preslee!

    Thinking of your entire family on this beautiful day.

    Jill L

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  29. JessicaDecember 17, 2011 at 5:10 PM

    Happy birthday Preslee!

    I've never met you Ahsley but you are such a big source of comfort and inspiration to me.
    I think you are amazing, and I know Preslee is so proud of you and how far you've come and your eternal perspective on life.

    You are in my prayers!

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  30. MarliDecember 17, 2011 at 5:46 PM

    what a sweet tribute. i hope y'all are blessed with peace and love.

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  31. MindeeDecember 17, 2011 at 9:14 PM

    Happy birthday sweet presley!! Ash were thinking of your family, you are such a beautiful writter and momma!

    I love that quote, It got me teary eyed!

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  32. Tamatha BanksDecember 18, 2011 at 12:09 AM

    Happy Birthday Miss Preslee. Prayers for comfort and joy today and every day.

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  33. L!$@December 18, 2011 at 6:08 AM

    Happy Birthday Preslee! You have a very special family :D

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  34. AnonymousDecember 18, 2011 at 6:18 AM

    from a stranger I pray for you today as Preslee birthday is remembered. May you Sleep in Heavenly Peace tonight and dream of her.

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  35. Kennedy KlanDecember 18, 2011 at 8:53 AM

    Ashley, The flowers look absolutely gorgeous with Preslee's white headstone and little Ledger being right there close to her with his cute smile just melts my heart. I hope that you and pat can remember how incredible you both felt that moment Preslee entered into your lives, three years ago a very sweet Angel was given to you. Hold on to all these precious feelings and memories and celebrate her birthday with love. Thank you for the quot from Joseph Smith, it really helped me as well in just knowing that if we live the way our Heavenly Father wants us to, rich blessing are in store. My prayers are with you this day.

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  36. ShaleighDecember 18, 2011 at 9:06 AM

    Ashley and Pat,
    You don't know me or my family, but we came across your blog through a friend. I have followed your story every since the accident and have felt very close to you guys. We have a little guy that shares a birthday with Preslee and I couldn't help but think yesterday that you too would have been celebrating your little 3yr old. my heart ached for you. I don't know what it is like to loose a child but I do know that you are a very blessed couple and have found strength. You inspire me to find the joy in little things with my 3 munchkins, sometimes life takes the fast track and we need to slow down and enjoy every moment as we don't know when our time is near. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are always with you. You have inspired so many people and it still amazes me as to the power of your little girls spirit. Happy Birthday Preslee.

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  37. Chef in TrainingDecember 19, 2011 at 12:44 AM

    Ashley, this post brought tears to my eyes. You are a woman of such strong faith and courage and such an example to me. There is seriously not a day that goes by that I don't think of you and send a prayer your way. Any time I go to hug my little ones, I hug them a little longer and a little tighter. Thank you for being so strong in the gospel and for posting little details in your life. You are an example to many. Preslee and your incredible family are changing peoples lives everyday. Thank you. Happy Birthday Preslee!

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  38. NyreeDecember 19, 2011 at 9:18 AM

    Happy Birthday Little Preslee! I am sure she spent every moment with you Ashley. The words you shared by Joseph Smith are truly comforting and an amazing promise. These words from Ezra Taft Benson cam to mind while reading this “the spirit world is not far away. Sometimes the veil between this life and the life beyond becomes very thin. Our loved ones who have passed on are not far from us.” and Brigham Young taught us that the Spirit World is right here, on Earth. I don't know if these words help but for some reason I felt I should share them. You are still in my prayers and I hope that your Christmas is an amazing one.

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  39. MeaganDecember 19, 2011 at 12:58 PM

    Happy Birthday sweet, little Preslee. The flowers on the headstone look beautiful. I love that quote, so comforting to those who had to say goodbye to a child. My heart breaks for your family. I'm often surprised how hard I can cry over a family I've never met. I feel like I know you. :) I hope your family has a very Merry Christmas.

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  40. SuSuDecember 19, 2011 at 11:42 PM

    Happy Birthday Sweet Preslee Girl. Your life has touched mine for good. I think of you and your family often. You are a lucky girl to have such wonderful parents.

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  41. KristinDecember 20, 2011 at 4:18 AM

    That doctrine that Joseph Smith taught IS a comfort...35 years ago, one of my little brothers died in a drowning accident when he was 3. My parents STILL lean on, and are comforted by, that doctrine. Peace and comfort to you and your family.

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  42. Auntie EMDecember 20, 2011 at 11:32 AM

    Hold fast to those promises, Ashley. Your little guy looks so happy - that cute smile - like he knows something we don't. I think he probably does. He would probably tell you so many amazing and wonderful things about his sister if he could. BUT.....I think that is why little ones can't talk. I pray you will have a wonderful joyous Christmas. I know you have a great family, a sweet husband and your adorable little son to help you through each day. You are an amazing woman who has made a difference in many lives. Mary from SLC

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  43. brigetteDecember 21, 2011 at 10:09 AM

    Happy Birthday sweet Preslee!! Hoping your family has a gently holiday. Prayers for them always!!

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  44. Trisha LarsonDecember 22, 2011 at 11:39 AM

    Ashley-

    Thank you for your sweet comment about Brady's birthday. I just had to tell you that sitting in the hospital on Saturday, I kept thinking of Preslee and how he was born on her birthday. I know that we don't "really" know each other but your sweet little girl touched my heart and soul. I have looked at her picture so many times with hte 12/17/08 underneath and I think that it's just amazing that my sweet rainbow baby (that we waited for 3 years to be blessed with) was born on such a special date.

    Hugs,
    Trisha

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  45. AnonymousJanuary 12, 2012 at 11:40 PM

    Ashley-

    I just your story on the Time Out for Women website and then more here on your blog. I am truly touched by your story in many ways. I admire you for the your faith and your ability to learn and hold on in it all.
    My heart goes out to you and your family. My family know very well how difficult the month of December can be. In May of 2004 we lost my dear niece, my eldest sister's youngest to SIDS. She too was born on December 17 (in 2003). In the short time that we got to spend with her, she touch and every one of our hearts. Your blog posts have helped to be able to look at things in a different perspective - Thank you!

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