October 2016


This year is flying right on by! Here’s a little of what we’ve been up to.

Patrick – is enjoying his job and recently switched positions, which he is really happy about. He was able to go to the opening football game for Boise State with his dad and one other game while we were in Boise for the Ladybug Luau with my brother. The most exciting part of the day is definitely when he gets home from work and the boys attack him with hugs. 


Ashley – is trying to survive the last few weeks of pregnancy and learned that pregnancy brain is real…She forgot to pick up Ledger on an early out day, and didn’t check her phone for awhile to see missed calls from the school and Pat. Luckily Ledger is a chill kid...


Preslee – has inspired her mom to take on a big project. It’s been in the works for months, proving to be much more difficult than she thought it would be, but Ashley hopes she can spread goodness after so many of you have inspired her with your example.


Ledger – Is rocking Kindergarten. He was recently the citizen of the week and had to share a poster and book talk in front of his class. (It was adorable!)  He’s loving all the new friends he’s making and he loves homework even more. (Lets hope this lasts)


Cannon – is obsessed with the baby in mommy’s tummy. He talks, sings twinkle twinkle little star, and hugs her all day long. Each morning he hugs the baby before mom and has been obsessed with Legos.


Cruiz – is finally potty trained at night! He wakes up saying, “Me pee the bed, no!” while he gives his mom a great big hug. He loves telling mom she’s beautiful and beams when mom says “Thank you handsome.”

Baby Girl – is looking good. She’s the most active at night and just this week dropped! She’s still nameless, and her name has caused more arguments than anything in her parent’s marriage. (Thank you for your name suggestions, we loved many of them, we just can’t agree on anything!) Her room is nearly finished and the family is all anxious for her arrival.


Life has been wonderful, and we’re anxious to begin a new chapter as we add one more member to our family.

Ladybug Luau


About a year and a half ago, Pat and I were able to take a trip to Kauai with other parents who had also lost children. {Read about it here} It was incredible, and we are still grateful for the experience. Each year, Heidi the founder, holds the Ladybug Luau- a fundraiser that pays to send couples to Kauai for a week of healing. The foundation pays for everything, it literally doesn’t cost couples a penny to go.


Pat and I were both asked to speak and attend the alumni reunion lunch which consisted of couples from our retreat and one held just last spring. It was fun catching up and meeting new couples.


Pat and I both spoke about how the retreat helped us individually and how it has helped our marriage. I’ve spoken quite a bit since losing Preslee, but it was the first time for Pat. We didn’t speak very long, but I couldn’t help but feel so grateful for Ohana Oasis, because I know Pat would have never done something like this before visiting Kauai. Ohana Oasis really has changed our lives. It was an emotional but fun night bidding on items and eating a great Hawaiian dinner.

14192514_1783355395213136_1728261432641836147_nThe Alumni group. 

We spent the rest of the weekend at my brother’s house and a big shoutout to my SIL for watching our kids, (Thank you!). I wish we lived closer to cousins, our boys are still talking about it.

We’ll be life long supporters of Ohana Oasis, and actually talked to Heidi about being more involved in her foundation. Hoping for big things to happen in the future. To learn more about the foundation and how it’s literally changing lives click here.


Let There Be No Empty Chairs


If I have one dream,
to be surrounded by all my children.


Ezra Taft Benson, a former President of  the LDS church, and his wife used to make their home their top priority. As they would teach their children the gospel, they would also emphasize they wanted their family to have no “empty chairs,” in the eternities.

Months ago we bought a new kitchen table. It seats six and contains a leaf that creates plenty of room to grow. I instantly fell in love with this table when I saw it in the store. It was being sold with gorgeous white tufted chairs, but with three young boys, I instantly knew they would be ruined after one meal. So I swapped them out for something sturdy that I knew could withstand our crazy boys… One day right?


After the table was delivered, I was absolutely giddy. I could hardly wait to eat dinner on it. For eight years we had owned a tiny little table that was difficult to fit our entire family around. Often times, Pat or I wouldn’t eat at the table with the kids, it was just too small.

That night as we sat down for dinner,  I happily looked around the table. I had cooked one of our favorite meals, our boys were spread out and weren’t fighting or stealing each other’s food, (Amazing right?) and everything seemed perfect. As I sat across from Pat, my eyes unexpectedly fell on the empty chair next to him. Without warning, tears started streaming down my face. That empty chair screamed to me that we were missing Preslee. 

I was instantly embarrassed. The last thing I wanted Pat to see was me crying after he bought me a brand new table. As I tried to hide my tears, I felt two little arms wrap around me. Ledger, my observant little five year old, had quietly climbed out of his chair and walked over to give me a hug. He didn’t say anything, he usually doesn’t, but he just stood there with his arms tightly wrapped around me. As I stared at that empty chair, the direct thought came to mind, “It won’t be forever.”

Since then, that empty chair has served as a reminder that Preslee is still our anchor up in heaven. Though life and trials can be difficult and consuming, it really is true, they won’t last forever. I desperately hope Pat and I can teach our boys that they can do hard things and though it won’t always be easy, hopefully my dream will one day come true—that there really won’t be any empty chairs.

"God intended the family to be eternal," President Benson has said. "With all my soul, I testify to the truth of that declaration. May He bless us to strengthen our homes and lives of each family member so that in due time we can report to our Heavenly Father in His celestial home that we are all there - father, mother, sister, brother. . . . Each chair is filled. We are all back home." (The Teachings of Ezra Taft Benson, page 493.)


I loved President Benson’s message so much that I reached out to Robin, at Chirp Chirp Designs to create a rustic custom sign to be hung above our table. I absolutely love how it turned out and everything it stands for. Robin has agreed to team up with us for a $50 giveaway for one of our readers to her shop! She’s incredibly talented and wonderful to work with. She has now made three custom signs for our family, all of which I love. 


  1. Follow The Sullengers and Chirp Chirp Designs on Instagram.
  2. Like the photo of the sign shown above on The Sullengers Instagram account.
  3. Comment on the same photo tagging two friends. Each other friend tagged will be an extra entry.

The winner will be announced Saturday night at 10am MST. Good luck!

Kindergarten 2016


On the 29th of August, Ledger started Kindergarten! I’ve been a little nervous, mainly because he’s young for his grade which caused us to go back and forth on whether or not to send him. But after a lot of prayer and talking it over with his preschool teacher, we felt he was ready.


(I love these pictures, you can see he’s a little bit nervous)

The night before Ledger was giddy, he could hardly contain his excitement while he laid out his new school clothes. Pat gave him a father’s blessing, and ran straight to bed!

Ledge was assigned morning kindergarten which I’m so happy about. He starts at 8:45, so we have plenty of time in the mornings. But I can’t believe how fast half day kinder goes by!

first day of kinder

Though Ledger said he wasn’t nervous, he was a ball of nerves that morning! His brothers kept setting him off, and he had a little meltdown when it came to his pants, but once I sat down and talked to him and he learned how short 2 1/2 hours really was, he brightened right up. He told me he didn’t want to be away from us all day long.


We walked him down to the school, he quickly jumped in line with the rest of his class and blew me a kiss and waved as he marched right into his class room. No tears from either of us. But on the way home, I couldn’t help but say a little prayer of gratitude. After grieving the fist day of school for the past couple of years, I was beyond grateful to be sending my child to school. And though I would have loved to have an older sister there with him, the good definitely outweighed the bad that day. God is good.


Cruiz cried when we said goodbye to Ledger :)


I took the boys to Arctic Circle (Ledger’s request) after we picked up Ledge to celebrate, and it made for a fun first day.

During the first week I asked Ledger what his favorite and least favorite part of the day was. It was the same all week.

Favorite: Show and Tell
Least favorite: Sitting on the mat ALL DAY LONG. He tends to struggle sitting still. :)

I’m not sure how long little boys adore their momma, so I’m trying to soak up every minute of it. I love how excited Ledger is to see me when I pick him up after school. I always get the biggest hugs after he sprints to me.

We love ya buddy, and after watching all that you’ve accomplished in just a few short weeks, we can’t wait to see what you do with the rest of your school year!

31 Weeks!


I honestly can’t believe I have less than 10 weeks to go in my very last pregnancy! The latest I’ve ever made it to is 38 weeks, so maybe only 7 more weeks?

We’ve had an eventful summer which has kept us busy and helped me forget (at times) that I am expecting. This has been by far my best pregnancy, which I’m certainly grateful for. In the past, I’ve always had 5+ kidney stones each pregnancy, but this time around, I’ve only had one. A lot of symptoms I have related to pregnancy turn out to actually be related to kidney stones. So if you get kidney stones, start taking magnesium, it will literally change your life :)

IMG_8091ed(30 weeks)

At 28 weeks I passed my glucose test! (Hallelujah!) I failed with the twins, so I was worried, but my doctor has been monitoring me from the beginning, and felt I would be just fine. Gestational diabetes is much more common while carrying twins. I’m so glad I can continue to eat cereal :)

IMG_8212ed(28 weeks)

I also learned I was anemic, and after taking an iron supplement each day, I can’t believe how much energy I have now! I can somewhat keep up with my boys again.


Just like my other pregnancies, I carry straight out. But following a twin pregnancy, I seriously look like I’m already 40 weeks pregnant. Confession: sometimes I stretch the truth about my due date, just to avoid the “Oh my goodness! You look like you are already going to pop! You must be due any day right?” conversation. I’ve had multiple people gasp when I turn around in a store, and they exclaim, “I couldn’t tell you were pregnant from behind, but you must be due any day!” But at each appointment I’m measuring right on, and she looks great.


(Ledger snapped this picture while I was sitting with the twins in timeout. This is Cannon’s preferred resting place)

The last couple of weeks we moved the twins out of their room and I’ve been working on decorating for a girl. I repainted our crib and dresser white (I should have painted earlier on to save my back!) and can’t even begin to explain how fun it is to walk by and see the color pink in our house again. My heart is full, and cannot wait to meet this little girl. Now, all we need is to figure out a name. Any suggestions? This is by far the most we’ve ever struggled!


We can’t wait to meet this little girl, end of Oct/Nov can’t come soon enough!

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